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Kistaro Windrider, Reptillian Situation Assessor

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The panhandler
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Several months ago, near when I moved up here from Missouri, I met a panhandler at a bus stop. As he was skilled at his trade, I didn't immediately know him to be one when I first met him- although I harbored suspicions; he showed many of the signs of homelessness. He said as much, later on in our conversation, explaining his overall lack of sleep due to spending the last few nights on the street; it was then he asked for money, promising to use it to pay for a night in a local hostel. I had no reason to disbelieve his usage plans; he didn't show signs of drug addiction, and shelter- even for one night- was pretty obviously his most severe need. So I handed him some of my cash-on-hand, took it off my luxury budget, and hoped I'd been at least some help.

I knew at the time that the story I'd been told didn't quite add up. I had no reason to doubt his statement about being put out of work by losing a workman's comp claim after a jaw-and-leg-breaking industrial accident in a factory- that sounds entirely plausible; it was the "just came in from Texas" part I had my doubts about. (It didn't help his credibility that he didn't sound like someone from Texas.) But he didn't seem like a dangerous person, or like one averse to work and preferring to live as a beggar; I believed the concept of him being unlucky. I know how close some members of my family have been to total financial ruin if they miss so much as one paycheck- it doesn't take much, sometimes.

I guess part of it is that it was a reasonable and well-told story; I didn't deeply care if he was telling me the truth or not. He told me things that made me want to help him, and he seemed like he could use the assistance, and he was an interesting man to talk to for the duration of the conversation. Panhandling is an art, and I honestly decided at the time that he was good enough at it to deserve compensation for his skill- and I still think that's true. I suppose it's a bizarre value judgement on my part...

I guess the charity was out-of-character for me. My parents were strict and clear on the concept that one does not give to panhandlers; the homeless who need help are best assisted by giving to shelters and city programs to help, and all the assistance and advice that can be given to get them into those programs- it's likely to do a lot more good than just giving money. That said, all the panhandlers I met in St. Louis seemed potentially dangerous, boozed-up, or both; this particular man seemed neither. I admit I had misgivings and questions about it at the time, and later- it was the opposite of what I'd been taught to do. But it seemed like he honestly needed it, and would use it reasonably.

I saw him again, a few months later, asking for directions to the library. (I was with Rakeela and another local friend, heading to Redmond Town Center.) He looked better- his tote bag had been upgraded significantly (replaced with one not falling apart at the seams), he looked (and smelled) like he'd had a recent shower, and his clothes were in better repair. And he was asking for directions to the library, not money. (Although this may be his modus operandi- to never ask the same person for money twice.) We went on, trading notes- we'd all seen him before, and he was looking better.

Well, last Saturday, Rakeela and I saw him again, and we talked for a bit. It was at Crossroads Mall this time, where I was just contemplating the last two slices of pizza I bought but didn't feel like finishing then (from a real pizza place, not one of the food-court pizza buffets), and contemplating where I could buy a container to take it home in. He made a half-joking request for a slice- which, after realizing who it was, I was happy to oblige. Although my recognition was a bit slow, because he was a little difficult to recognize.

He declined the offer of the pizza, though, even after asking, calling it a joke; it seemed like the sort of thing that was half a joke. I'd've been glad to give it to him, given that I was full anyway, but he actually did decline it. We got to talking a bit; he mentioned working with a theater group.

Which explained a lot, really. He wasn't carrying all his posessions with him. He looked clean and healthy; his clothes were in good condition. He looked healthier than I'd ever seen him before, and when we told him where we bought the pizza and how cheaply, he quickly went off in the referenced direction (with the apparent intent of taking advantage of the discount that was the reason we bought pizza at all).

I think what I'm saying is that I really, really hope all this means what it seems to mean- he has a job, and he has a home.

Which tells me a lot in a case-study sort of way. (Yes, the plurality of "anecdote" is not "data", I know- and I only have the one.) A question brought up in my Psychology class after observing the high correlation between homelessness and mental illness was that of whether the stress of living on the street causes mental illness, or if most people without mental illness can find employment and shelter rapidly if they find themselves without it at all. I had no idea which it was, during class, but after observing this man (and I keep editing his name out for the sake of his privacy; I keep tending to use it), I'm starting to believe the latter is the stronger factor. The man was under stress as bad as anybody's, but he never "lost it", as far as either of us can tell- and it looks like, in the end, he's found somewhere. I hope he has.

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Neat.

And here's a good question for you.

That day long ago that you gave him money for a hotel room, you likely didn't think too much of it. Yet, now, look at what you've done :) Look at the effects of your actions :)

Pretty cool stuff, huh?

That's pretty much my thought as well. That was some REALLY well invested money. Of course, it might haven't much of an impact, but many signs point there.

You did squeaky good, Kistaro! ^'======'^

I still don't think it had that big of an effect, though. If I hadn't given him the amount for that night, he almost certainly would have been able to get it from someone else; all I did was save him a little time.

He got more from me. I gave him enough money for three nights. That was probably a good day for him.

The fact that he gave me a copy of a theater script he'd written was a big part of why I was that willing to be generous. I skimmed it and although I didn't think it was very good from a dramatic perspective, it was written clearly and fluently. The man seemed very clearminded and focused. I did not expect to see any of that money back (though he promised to pay me back) but I judged him to have some real potential nevertheless.

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It depends a lot on the homeless person. The first time I saw him, the man described in this post was probably someone you'd want to avoid, because it looked like he'd been struck in the face recently. I didn't see general marks of a fight, just a black eye- in retrospect, I suspect he asked the wrong person for money.

But yes, there's a very different culture. I go by bus often enough to see many people without shelter, and they're more diverse than the St. Louis set. Most of the ones I've seen in St. Louis are visibly drunk, intoxicated, or under the influence of other drugs; that's less ubiquitous here. (One person was explaining how proud he was of being off crack for months, so he passed a city-provided life skills program and was about to start his first job- short-order cook- the next day. The city would provide housing as long as he continued to stay clean from drugs, and he planned to do so. The programs work.) And they seem lower-key, more polite.

Maybe it's because people seem more likely to be generous here- these people are in bad situations, to be sure, but perhaps they're not as desperate.

This is a story that makes me smile. It's good to hear about somebody pulling themselves back out of something rough, and I'll admit, I can follow the chain of reasoning that says "He's a good panhandler, I suppose I should reward him for practicing this skill well." ;)

Sadly I suspect the homeless in Baltimore (I don't live in the city, but I head back into it often enough) are a lot more likely to be like those in St. Louis. But it might not be that bad--my friend who lives in the city is inclined to help out now and again with people, and she's the one that made it clear to me how bad the drugs and violence problems are in Baltimore.

Wow... the panhandlers in China made me want to punch them...they would push, shove, follow you... stuff that is very counterproductive to the "art" of panhandling... One woman downtown had an act where she would eat from a garbage dumpster... one of the irritable Britons (this girl really did have little patience) in my program violated her personal space one day and opened the dumpster fully to reveal a take out box from a restaurant across the street. This wasn't trash, but something she must have planted herself...she even used soy sauce... my experiences were different...when I got back to the mainland from Macau, I gave a panhandler my spare Macau change, which she took out of her cup and chucked at the back of my head. Maybe it was a little cruel of me to give her money that she would have to exchange in the mainland, but I always believed the beggars can't be choosers... your story is a good one, but I fear it may be a rare one!

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